Unchanging Love

Unchanging Love

by Ivy Guinto Fernandez on Monday, May 18, 2009 at 12:27am

Just finished watching a documentary on a so far "wedding of the year" (till it will be upstaged by another prominent personalities' wedding)...weddings really do have an effect on me..i cry at every wedding i see even if i am not a friend of the couple...now that i am back to reality after watching that beautiful wedding, i suddenly had a new thought- that wedding is like the end of a fairy tale and the beginning of a soap opera or reality tv...that's it- the end, because after that, everyday will be reality already as you see what or who your other half really is. He may either really be your prince charming or he'll turn out to be the villain disguised as the prince. What happens everyday after the honeymoon will set the stage as to how far the teleserye will go- if it will be cut short or if it will run for several seasons more because it deserves a long run. Hey , I don't wanna ruin the singles' hope or longing for weddings...maybe its just my hormones that's why I am saying these things..or its a full moon or a red moon out there that's why i am in such a mood...but what the heck...I am married, will stay married...i still don't know till when...it may last my lifetime, it may not, who am I to tell...for now all i can say is that staying married is a choice- a commitment!!its not an emotional state- sometimes you feel you like it sometimes not, but whether the feeling is there or not...i have made my choice- i am staying married! well ...for now (",)

So then love is a commitment - a commitment is somehow unchanging...if love is defined as an emotion, how can it be unchanging? emotions change...commitment seldom changes- we stand by it!!!

To those married people out there...don't be content with the fact that commitment will not change- you have to take care of a marriage no matter how stubborn a person is to stay married- nurture it for it to grow- if its not growing and has remained stagnant- meaning taking each other for granted, not doing things that will make each other happy,verbally abusing your partner if not physically, not going out on dates as a couple anymore, and the like- be careful...stagnant water becomes murky and after a time no one would like to live in murky water.